I was watching an episode of "Desperate Housewives" last week which focused on how we all "judge" other people. We judge our neighbors by the things we see them do. And our judgments are sometimes right on the money, but are quite often misguided and WAY off base.
The show mentioned how we might believe that our neighbors are perfectly good and normal, upstanding citizens. When in reality they may have cheated on their taxes last year. And yet another neighbor may seem to have it all together, but the truth is that they are just one bad hair day away from completely falling apart. Perhaps they have just found out that their spouse, who has "tricked" the world into believing they are in a perfectly happy marriage, has actually been having an affair for years. Now the show specifically focused on neighbors, but in real life we judge everyone we see in some sort of way. And more importantly ....we are judged by others, in return. And we may never truly know what kind of person others deem us to be. Even our children make judgments. Theirs are usually guided by the set of morals which we, as parents, have instilled in them. And as I found out, one Mother's Day, a few years ago....we are not exempt from being judged by our children either. In school, one of my children created a booklet as a gift for me. I tried to photograph the pages so that it could be uploaded into the blog, but the writing was too faint to show up. But it read (misspellings included) as follows:
"MY Mother"(page 1)SOME MOTHERS LIVE IN.... 1. on Bass Alley 2. the side of the road 3. apartmints OR 4. Holly woodMY MOTHER LIVES " in the woods"(page 2)SOME MOTHERS WEAR..... 1. hi heels 2. pony tales 3. ugly gresses (dresses) OR 4. flip flopsMY MOTHER WEARS " alote of make up" (page 3)SOME MOTHERS HAVE....
1. lots of money 2. lots of gury (jewelry) 3. big bellys OR 4. sharp nosisMY MOTHER HAS
" strait hair"
(page 4)
SOME MOTHERS PLAY....
1. tag 2. soccer 3. tennins (tennis) OR 4. Bolly BallMY MOTHER PLAYS " tick tac toe" (page 5)SOME MOTHERS...... 1. are mean 2. are grumpy 3. are follish (foolish) OR 4. jellis (jealous)MY MOTHER...... " is nice " So what I learned from this was that even my child views me "MUCH" differently than I might have thought. I guess I should just consider it lucky that I don't seem to have a big belly and apparently I'm not foolish in my childs eyes, but most important of all...my child thinks that I am a "NICE" Mother. As you can tell ...We haven't gotten to the teen years yet! SCRIPTURE OF THE DAY Teach me good judgment and discernment, for I rely on Your commands. PSALMS 119 : 66
If justice is blind, then I'd be a great judge. But not really perhaps. Psalms 119:66 says it well. We need God's guidance to help us make good judgements and I pray for it regularly. Some people say I'm just too nice. I think it's more a matter of trying to look past petty things, offering help instead of unkind criticism, trying to see all sides of an issue, and being logical with a good dose of compassion when needed. Maybe I could be a fairly good judge after all.
ReplyDeleteWritings of the innocent are so precious, hold on to them. ('live in the woods' !).. try it again when they are in their teens.. that might be scary (lol).
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BM
Hi there,
ReplyDeletelove this blog, have had a good read, and found this very intersting. I love the outlook your little one has about you...So very charming...loved it..
Denise
I love what you write ..kind of relates to my home too.
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